Category: Responsible Parenting & Smaller Families

  • Urge Grist to Talk About Sustainable Family Planning

    Urge Grist to Talk About Sustainable Family Planning

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    It’s great that Grist, the environmentally minded media outlet, is recognizing that media isn’t doing their jobs when they spend a lot more time covering news of the royal baby than climate change. But is it time for Grist to aggressively report on better family planning policies as the most comprehensive and effective way to mitigate the variety of harms climate change is causing?  

    Environmentalists have long treated family planning as a taboo subject. It’s glaringly absent from the Green New Deal. But it’s time to break taboo. The businesses that are destroying our environment are breaking it, and urging parents to produce more babies to increase consumption, and to increase a glut of cheap labor and taxpayers for the future. 

    We know how to fix this.

    A better family planning model and policies – with a focus on smaller and more equitable families – are likely the most effective solution to most of the world’s crises today. Remodeling family planning is the most comprehensive and effective way to promote the UN’s Sustainable Development Goals, and in some cases proves twenty times more effective than other reforms. Simply stated, the current family planning model used by the United Nations is the fundamental source of the problem. It ensures unsustainable population growth in a way that degrades equality, democracy, and our environment.

    This archaic model predates our understanding of climate change, the impact of early childhood development, the way birth conditions and early childhood can exacerbate inequality, etc. Many better models have been proposed, including one by leading political theorist Sarah Conly, and Having Kids’ own model, the Fair Start approach (detailed here).

    Take action:

    Contact Grist CEO here and urge him to help Grist to break the taboo and aggressively report on better family planning policies. It’s the most comprehensive and effective way to mitigate the harms of climate change. 

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  • He helped create the climate crisis. Tell him to make it right for kids.

    He helped create the climate crisis. Tell him to make it right for kids.

    The climate crisis is the biggest threat to your kid’s future. The federal government is making things worse. Ready to step up for your kids and their future? What would you do to help minimize the harm that climate change will cause them? What will you tell them you did to protect them?

    The truth is, some people alive today are much more responsible for climate change than others. Lee R. Raymond, and those members of his family that are benefiting from the money he made denying climate change, are a great example. As a CEO of ExxonMobil, Lee is more responsible for the threat climate change poses to you and your family than most other people on earth.

    The good news is that there are ways to mitigate the harms of climate change, starting with funding the most comprehensive and effective thing out there: Fair Start family planning reforms. The reform model is simple.  Communities offer substantial resources, like guaranteed minimum incomes, to future parents. Then, in exchange, parents plan smaller families where they can invest more in each child. That simple model is the greatest way to mitigate most of the environmental and social threats that face our children. We can apply better family planning in policy, or through individual actions.  

    The Raymond family should use their millions to fund Fair Start reforms. If they did, it would have massive impact beyond just the sheer amount of money spent. It would symbolize and publicize their acknowledgement of the harm they caused. And it would widely highlight better family planning as the most effective way to make amends for that harm.

    Take action: We believe you can contact Lee here. Please politely ask him to use his millions to publicly fund Fair Start family planning reforms. Lee, it’s time to do the right thing for all the harm you caused. 

     

  • Guest Blog: San Francisco Public Health Professional Addresses Family Planning

    Guest Blog: San Francisco Public Health Professional Addresses Family Planning

    Recently a public health professional in California contacted Having Kids to discuss the impact of family planning on the lives of children. This is what they had to say.

    As a public health professional working for the City and County of San Francisco, I am passionate about improving outcomes for at-risk youth and families. Over the years, I have contributed to the evidence-base on what works in mental health and behavioral health care. My greatest interest lies in prevention work, intervening early enough in life to ensure that children get the love and support they need to thrive and become healthy adults. It’s a passion that pervades my personal life, as I plan to foster and adopt my first child – a decision I’ve made for ethical reasons and one that reflects caring for those in need rather than creating new need.

    Child welfare is an issue that has risen to near-crisis level in San Francisco. The hasty decision to close our Juvenile Hall is evidence of a broken system whereby community organizations, child welfare and juvenile justice fail to effectively work together on developing long-term solutions, in one of the wealthiest cities in the world. The affordable housing crisis is driving many in the next generation into the streets.   

    Families are one of the strongest socializing forces in our lives

    Unfortunately, many children come from homes with considerable conflict, putting them at high risk for negative health outcomes. In San Francisco, children and families that come into regular contact with human service agencies, like Child Welfare, Juvenile Probation, and Behavioral Health generally have low socioeconomic status and experience chronic stress related to this. It is common to see children, and their siblings, with mental diagnoses such as oppositional defiant disorder, major depression, and PTSD. 

    A substantiated allegation of abuse or neglect can result in a child being removed from their home, however, this is often too late as trauma can permanently impact developing minds. Also, removal from the home brings additional challenges. Children removed from the home may already have attachment issues due to a lack of a stable family environment and they are now being asked to trust multiple providers (case workers, doctors, foster parents, probation officers, etc.). Given the lack of consistent relationships in their lives, they do not know who they trust, and lose a sense of identity and place, putting them in a very vulnerable position for exploitation. In fact, 60% of all sex trafficking victims have a history of involvement with the child welfare system.  Oakland is considered a national hub for child-sex trafficking.

    Similarly, juvenile justice-involved youth can be removed from the home. They tend to be older and more criminally sophisticated, and it is therefore challenging to find foster/resource families. Instead, youth are placed in group home facilities, or, depending on the nature of the crime, a more secure facility. In California, the cost to maintain a youth in a group home facility is approximately $10-12K per month with negative outcomes such as running away, early mortality, being in and out of the prison system in adulthood, mental health and behavioral health issues, and chronic homelessness. Teens and youth with multiple placements present a significant barrier to reunification.

    All of this creates a pipeline for human trafficking, and horrific cases of domestic violence. I’ve seen the moms and kids stuck in this world with my own eyes. And I know the problem began long ago, in families where the children were being set up for failure. The opioid crisis has only amplified to levels that are breaking public health and child welfare systems around the country.  

    A big challenge is how can we intervene early enough to impact children’s lives so that they can thrive and become healthy, contributing members of society? A major challenge is keeping up with the pace of this public health crisis whereby so many children and their siblings are experiencing early neglect and trauma, essentially becoming pawns of the “cradle to prison” pipeline.

    Family planning is prevention work

    By changing the way we plan families, we take prevention work to another level, finding ways to encourage all parents to have smaller, more equitable and better-planned families, thereby reducing the scale of this crisis and re-purposing resources to focus on evidence-based services that improve long-term outcomes. Programs such as the Perry Preschool Program which focuses on the developmental growth of at-risk children and resulted in a 7–10% per year return on investment based on increased school and career achievement, as well as reduced costs in remedial education, health, and criminal justice system expenditures.

    As a society, we need to create policies that uphold the rights of children. Smarter family planning leads to better outcomes. Period. It is time to take a long-range prevention approach and embrace better family planning models like Fair Start.

  • Wajahat Ali and What it Means to Invest in Children

    Wajahat Ali and What it Means to Invest in Children

    Everyone at Having Kids was happy to see Wajahat Ali’s TED Talk “The case for having kids.” The presentation breaks the taboo that surrounds talking about the need for better family planning policies and closes with a plea to invest in current and future generations. It is clear to us that Mr. Ali loves children and wants the best for them. We do, too, so we reached out to urge him to build upon his important work and consider the details of what it means to truly invest in children.

    Read our letter to Mr. Ali about investing in future generations.

    Urging people to simply “have babies” plays into the pyramid Ponzi scheme mentality of using future generations as tools for economic growth. Mr. Ali’s talk, however well intentioned, could do more harm than good. Only truly human rights-based family planning policies will set our children free from a system based on greed. Poor family planning is the norm, and it causes real harm every day. Children are born into starvation and horrific abuse, the gap between rich and poor is widening, and climate change is only beginning to wreak havok.

    Our Fair Start family planning model is designed to invest in future generations. We can shift the world’s thinking from isolationist family planning focused on what parents want, toward an approach that helps everyone. We need a more comprehensive and cooperative focus that considers what children and the community need. The Fair Start model creates a system that maximizes child welfare, equity, and sustainability.

    We are asking Mr. Ali to use his status as an influential public figure to keep breaking taboos around discussing family planning. We are also urging him to be clear that helping future generations doesn’t mean just “having babies.” It means planning a Fair Start.

    Sincerely,

    Erika and Willow, and Carter

    The Phelps-Mathews Family
    The Phelps-Mathews Family

    Join Erika and Willow by tweeting @WajahatAli and politely asking him to consider the Fair Start model.

  • Why Animal, Enviro, Social Justice Orgs Should Support Better Family Planning

    Why Animal, Enviro, Social Justice Orgs Should Support Better Family Planning

    Do you work with a social justice organization, like an environmental, child welfare, animal protection, or human rights group? If so, one of the best ways to further your organization’s mission in by promoting Fair Start family planning.

    Why?

    For example – many animal protection advocates focus on changing diets as a way to protect animals from the horrors of factory farming and wildlife from the horrors of climate change that is partially driven by factory farming. The impact of this approach has been completely overridden by recent population growth, which is set to continue.

    Isn’t it time to work upstream? 

    • Fair Start family planning is not just effective. It is comprehensively effective, or intersectional. It aligns environmentalism, animal protection, and human rights in one unifying campaign to reform the way we plan families. This isn’t just a matter of using words like intersectional to appear thoughtful. The creation of future generations is something that connects us all.

    Social justice organizations could magnify their impact exponentially by including family planning reform in their programming. For some organizations, there is the option of including Fair Start advocacy in their lawful civil disobedience programs. How could they do this specifically?

    In addition to current work organizations could lawfully target entities like Exxon who are harming untold numbers of children and animals through their impact on climate and other aspects of the environment, and who have special obligations to fund Fair Start family planning systems given the harm they have caused.

    It’s time to create fundamental change, and be effective and intersectional at the same time. Social justice work starts with people, and in the long run, people start with family planning. It’s time for to ensure a fair start for all kids. Learn more at HavingKids.org. 

    TAKE ACTION:
    Join us in urging the U.N. Secretary-General to issue a statement recommending sustainable family planning for World Population Day. RSVP to our event, help us share the event, and send him a message here.

     

  • Consumption or Family Size: Which Matters for Climate?

    Consumption or Family Size: Which Matters for Climate?

    Care about consumption and its impact on the planet? Many argue that consumption, not population is the real climate crisis. But the truth is, consumption and people are inextricably linked. We have to address both.

    Demand isn’t created by dirty companies. Demand comes from people. Focusing only on carbon, plastic, and such plays right into the hands of global corporations like Unilever, Walmart and Amazon who depend on increasing birth rates to fuel spending for their products. Yes, bad industrial players must be held accountable. And we’re on our way to doing that. But if we’re only addressing carbon output, we’re ignoring the source of the problem: unsustainable population growth. Choosing to have a smaller family however, is the best way to mitigate our impact on the planet.  

    Looking only at emissions also ignores several critically important issues including water scarcity, mineral depletion, deforestation, and habitat loss. As the Center for Biological Diversity explains,“If we address one without the other, the end result will still be humans continuing to take more than our fair share from the planet.”

    The Center for Biological Diversity also stated:

    “A 2009 study of the relationship between population growth and global warming determined that the “carbon legacy” of just one child can produce 20 times more greenhouse gas than a person will save by driving a high-mileage car, recycling, using energy-efficient appliances and light bulbs, etc. Each child born in the United States will add about 9,441 metric tons of carbon dioxide to the carbon legacy of an average parent. The study concludes, “Clearly, the potential savings from reduced reproduction are huge compared to the savings that can be achieved by changes in lifestyle.”

    One of the study’s authors, Paul Murtaugh, warned that: “In discussions about climate change, we tend to focus on the carbon emissions of an individual over his or her lifetime. Those are important issues and it’s essential that they should be considered. But an added challenge facing us is continuing population growth and increasing global consumption of resources. . . . Future growth amplifies the consequences of people’s reproductive choices today, the same way that compound interest amplifies a bank balance.”

    The consumption vs. population debate.

    The finger pointing is generally toward high fertility rates in developing countries and high consumption in developed countries. However, it’s not an either/or scenario. It’s an evolving situation. As nations develop, their standard of living increases along with consumption rates. We are on track for exponential population growth paired with a drastic increase in consumption. Taking an incomplete approach is a recipe for disaster.

    Is consumption outpacing population growth?
    It is in some cases. Consider that food demand outpaces sustainable supply. According to the 2018 Global Agricultural Productivity Report, “for the fifth straight year, global agricultural productivity growth is not accelerating fast enough.” How can we continue to feed a growing population without a global effort for sustainable population planning?

    The U.N. has also warned that one million species are at risk of disappearing due to habitat loss, among other human activities, in the sixth mass extinction already underway. “A quarter of catalogued animal and plant species are already being crowded, eaten or poisoned out of existence,” its IPBES Global Assessment Report report states. Should we be concerned then about consumption or crowding? The answer is both – as confirmed by a UN Report released in May. 

    We have the power to determine the future for our kids.
    Most of us agree that a crowded planet is not something we want. But we fail to make the connection that our decision to have a large or small family is what determines how the world will look. The Fair Start Model is one way that we can work together to ensure that all kids get what they need to thrive – including a habitable planet. Let’s save room for animals, for nature, and for our kids to enjoy the only planet we have by planning smaller families.

    TAKE ACTION:
    Join us in urging the U.N. Secretary-General to issue a statement recommending sustainable family planning for World Population Day. RSVP to our event, help us share the event, and send him a message here.

  • A Plea to Hilaria Baldwin

    A Plea to Hilaria Baldwin

    Dear Hilaria,

    We know you love your kids and want what’s best for their future. Recently when asked about having more kids you said: “They’re My Favorite Things in the World So Why Not?” “Why not keep going?”

    We are asking you to use your status as an influential public figure to speak out on the connection between family planning, the climate crisis and other environmental and social crises, and to choose to foster and/or adopt your next child.

    Thank you for considering setting a vital example.

    Sincerely,

    Erika and Willow

    The Phelps-Mathews Family
    The Phelps-Mathews Family

    Join Erika and Willow by tweeting @hilariabaldwin to urge her to consider adoption.

  • Confronting Fears About Better Family Planning

    Confronting Fears About Better Family Planning

    Why would anyone oppose the idea of promoting smaller families? Most people care about the worsening state of our climate, and the rights and welfare of both humans and animals. But many are also aware of the unsettling history of coercive reproductive activities imposed on certain groups and powerless individuals. It is because of that fear that some balk at suggestions to encourage more thoughtful family planning, like policies that encourage smaller families that can invest more time, love, and energy in each child. They would rather avoid the topic entirely.

    But that knee-jerk reaction misses the larger picture. Poor family planning is the source of our greatest social and environmental crises, and the genesis of inequity and disempowerment. We cannot claim to be addressing things like anthropogenic climate change, extinction, inequity, and child welfare without targeting the source of those crises, and opening our minds to a whole new way of family planning that involves cooperation, rather than isolation.

    The status quo perpetuates inequality and oppression.
    We believe we are free in our reproductive decision making. But temporalize your thinking, think of the future child and their relations with others, and things become more morally complex. The truth is, our current system perpetuates oppression by falling far short of providing a fair start in life.

    Poverty, inequality, abuse, family instability, low social mobility, poor health, interaction in an unequal criminal justice system, limited access to quality education and opportunities in life – they are passed on, generation to generation. The U.S. has been called the most unequal society in the developed world. Inequality is also rising across the globe as the world population grows exponentially. Without greater family planning investments with citizens and communities working together to ensure a fair start for kids, this unlevel playing field will only continue to worsen. If we are not starting upstream to address this problem we are not dealing with the source of inequity.

    Wall Street and faith-based interests already exert massive influence on family planning policy and reproductive choice.
    These forces exert their power over lawmakers and other elected officials to shape policies that ensure larger families and higher fertility. Of course we know there are socially conservative groups and the religious right who oppose access to family planning choice and steer the views of so many people in the United States. But few are aware of the role of the capitalism in advancing pro-natalist policies. Economists and corporations largely subscribe to an agenda of infinite economic growth. It’s an agenda that relies on bringing more and more children into the world to fuel a system of workers, consumers, and taxpayers that benefit a small percentage of people at the top in what many have recognized as a Ponzi scheme pyramid. Just look at the many voices like Marco Rubio, who tell Americans that we need to have more kids because “it’s good for the economy”.

    Shouldn’t we push back by advocating for policies that put children and the planet before the economy? Who wouldn’t want to improve lives and give citizens a more equitable opportunity to succeed?

    It’s About Improving Choice.
    We can protect reproductive rights and pursue better family planning. It’s not an either-or proposition. Think of it as choice-plus. Family planning shouldn’t only be about the availability of contraceptives. It should also include education about the benefits to parents and children on delaying parenthood and having smaller families. That’s family planning in the truest sense of term. Why not arm young people with the information to make better choices for their future?

    The way to create more inclusive, equitable, and sustainable results for our communities is by encouraging delayed parenthood and smaller families.
    Decades of research prove that, bar none, better family planning is the most effective way to increase social mobility and reduce inequality. When parents wait to have kids, they are better positioned to succeed financially and emotionally. When parents choose to have smaller families, there are more resources to go around. Communities and parents can invest more in each child, rather than dividing dollars, time, and attention among many more kids.

    Fair Start family planning takes it a step further to shift the unfair distribution of resources from going the top, to the rest of society who needs it to have a fair shot at opportunities to succeed.

    The aim of Fair Start family planning is to inform and provide – to strengthen investments, access, education, and resources to reduce inequality, increase inclusiveness, and put communities on a path to a sustainable future.

  • Washington Post: Want Democracy? Connect the Dots to Family Planning

    Washington Post: Want Democracy? Connect the Dots to Family Planning

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    The Washington Post recently reported on a troubling trend in the United States: attacks on the value of higher education. The Washington Post is correct that education matters for democracy. A society made up of uneducated people, vast inequality, and greed as the primary motivator is the antithesis of a democracy. Democracy must come before economics.

    But if the Washington Post values democracy over economics when it comes to education policy, why does it reverse that stance when it comes to family planning?

    The Washington Post has itself promoted ideas that have created the situation they now bemoan. For example, they encourage Millenials to have more kids because “it’s good for the economy”. However, we know that encouraging fertility for the sake of the economy only serves to drive further inequality and weaken democracy.

    If we value democracy, we have to ensure that the conditions in which people are actually born and raised foster democracy. Downstream and after-the-fact approaches are a farce, and build inequality more than democracy. Yes, education matters for democracy. But not family planning matters even more. Why? The point of education is to ensure free and equal citizens, but family planning – more than education – determines the people we become.

    The Washington Post isn’t connecting the dots, and suffers (as we all do) from temporal myopia. The myopia is not limited to the issue of education. It’s overriding in things like our view of child care policies (where else do we ignore the source of need), preventing mass extinction, and certainly in climate change mitigation, where we routinely ignore the most important behavior change.

    What’s the solution? Through better family planning policies we could afford to make college free and obligatory. That may be what real democracy requires.

    We can break our temporal myopia, and change the way we see the world.

    Take action: Urge Washington Post’s editor @PostBaron to embrace democracy at its source, and abandon its promotion of economic-growth based family planning.

     

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