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  • Let’s plan for all our futures

    Let’s plan for all our futures

    How can we protect animals without family planning? How can we protect our environment without accounting for the number of people impacting it? How can we maintain systems of human rights and democracy without the creation and development of the moral people that must comprise such systems?

    It is clear that we will never realize the aspirations of human, environmental, and animal rights without reforming our family systems. Family planning is currently driven by policies that ignore the environment and the substantial investment required for the well being of each child, in order to produce as many workers, consumers, and taxpayers as possible.

    The good news is that people are pushing back by choosing smaller families, reducing fertility rates, and investing more resources in each child. Making this trend the new normal could help restore animals’ habitats and our environment, as well as create smaller and more functional democracies where everyone has a voice. We can crystalize and institutionalize this by changing from dysfunctional systems of family planning to the child-first Fair Start model. If you support animal protection, environmental, or human rights organizations, urge them to include family planning as part of their mission.

    Rights-based systems can prevail – but not without reforming family planning. Please take action today.

  • Is the economy affected by large families?

    Is the economy affected by large families?

    What about having kids so corporations can look forward to more customers? No? Well you might be surprised at who thinks you should. Several publications in the last month, including the liberally-minded New York Times have voiced concern that smaller families and women waiting longer to parent “could depress the economy.” They argue that fewer people means less economic growth.

    Well, truth be told – there’s not too much to worry about in terms of national growth. The United State is projected to grow by another one hundred million people in the next 50 or so years.

    The much more pressing questions are:

    • How much faster will our climate change with 100 million more Americans?
    • How will we make sure our children are in loving families, and not victims of parents like the Turpins who are accused of torturing their thirteen children, producing children in part to model large-family celebrities that gave them hope of starting their own reality show?
    • What will our day to day life and our democracy look like 50 years from now?

    Time to push back against the people pushing for larger families? Many of our supporters think so.

    Join the pushback at HavingKids.org.

     

     

     

  • Child-first vs. Parent-first Family Planning

    Child-first vs. Parent-first Family Planning

    Having Kids promotes a child-first family planning model. What does that mean? Put simply, it means planning families around what kids need in the long-term, rather than simply around what parents want in the short-term. For example, teenagers may want to have kids because they think it’s trendy. But because kids themselves don’t make great parents, a child-first family planning approach would prioritize minimizing teen pregnancy. An adult couple may want to have five or six kids because of family tradition or religion. But given the impact each person places on the environment, including degrading our atmosphere and changing our climate, parents engaged in child-first family planning would be encouraged to rethink that decision. Only the child-first model promotes fundamental values like fairness, equality, and democracy.

    Right now, parent-first family planning is the dominant model in most places. It treats the idea of having as many kids as parents want – whenever and wherever – as the personal and private decision of the parents. It’s all about the parents. Because of that model, many think it’s OK that some kids come into the world with a massive head start, in a position to dominate others because of their parents’ wealth. This model opens the door for some to push for policies that encourage women to have more kids in order to fuel economic growth and nationalism. Because of the parent-first model, many think there’s no such thing as a time when one is “ready” to have kids – why would there be if the point of having kids is to find personal fulfillment?

    The parent-first model encourages people who are not ready to be good parents to have kids, pushes people to have kids who will later come to regret it, and pushes more and more kids through a completely broken system that can’t provide even basic things like health insurance. That model is filling our already crowded world with millions more people.  Line graph showing world population from 1950 to projections for 2100, with observed data, median forecast, prediction intervals, and sample trajectories. Population could range from 8 to 15 billion by 2100.

    One of the ugliest aspects of the parent-first family planning model is the push by many economists for larger families – literally paying parents to have kids – in order to create workers to pay for their parents’ retirement. That approach prioritizes parents’ investment and retirement accounts over a safe and healthy environment, minimum standards at birth for every child, and a fair start in life.

    Changing to a child-first family planning model is not as hard as it seems. Right now there are serious proposals in Washington to create simple cash-payments to families of children in need, and in some cases payments for all kids, via what are called “baby bonds,” or $20,000 accounts available to all children when they turn 18. Could these proposals be amended to become cooperative family planning measures instead, where the funds are made contingent on some modest form of family planning and co-payment? By having parents contribute five percent of the amount before they have their first child, for example, we could improve the welfare of those in need even more. Improving child welfare is vital, but it doesn’t really work if we don’t think ahead enough to act before a child is born.

    The future, for us and for our kids, is being defined by the family planning decisions happening around us. The best thing we can do to improve the future is to change from a family planning model focused on what parents want in the short-term, to one that focuses on what children need in the long-term.

    Join the conversation at Having Kids.

  • Television Shows Are Pushing Women to Have More Kids. Why, and Can You Help Stop It?

    Television Shows Are Pushing Women to Have More Kids. Why, and Can You Help Stop It?

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    We all know that celebrities influence our purchasing habits, but as role models they also influence other choices, like how we plan our families. They help create culture – the images in our heads about what a family should look like, and how many children ideal families have. Celebrities have the potential to not just sell products, but push women to create more consumers and demand for those products – and businesses know this. That has massive consequences for society and our environment, with small changes in average family size today causing enormous differences in total world population in the future.

    And that’s why the controversy and backlash surrounding reality television stars Chip and Joanna Gaines decision to have a fifth child matters. The decision they are modeling will help determine what our future holds, and the science is crystal clear: Family planning has the greatest long–term impact on climate change, economic inequality, and other things that define the quality of our and children’s lives. Some groups are promoting the Gaines family as effective role models for accelerating population growth, and urging other women to follow their lead. Conservative media sources are publishing fake news claiming the U.S. population is falling, when in fact it will grow by almost 100 million in the next 50 or so years.

    The timing of the Gaines announcement, as well as the advertising of other shows promoting giant families like the notorious Radford family in Britain, comes after Trump and his supporters pushed through tax incentives expressly designed to promote larger families, with Paul Ryan specifically urging women to have more kids. The push for more kids comes while Congress is refusing to fund children’s health insurance, and after recent studies show infants in the U.S. are dying at an alarming rate from lack of care. More kids, less care?

    The Problem

    Proponents of large families are willing to make a trade-off many of us may not be willing to make.

    Religious, racial, and other motivations aside, the mainstream reason for today’s push for larger families is economic. Despite a world population headed for almost 10 billion people by 2050, many economists are pushing to accelerate that growth as a way to fuel economic growth, higher gross domestic product, greater returns on investments, etc., and evade specific demographic impacts like an older populace reliant on fewer younger workers to support them. The economic impacts of reduced fertility are highly controversial – with lots of debate between economists about what smaller families will actually do to economies, and what economic growth that actually benefits the average person would look like and take to create.

    But even assuming smaller families reduce economic growth, are we really willing to exacerbate climate change, accelerate the extinction of other species, and further destroy our degraded environment just to make more money? An entire population of sea turtles is being now being turned female because of the climate change that human population is driving. Do we really want to worsen the environment children will inherit? If we care about nature, should we be pushing back against those promoting larger families? If we think about our daily lives, the overcrowded cities, endless traffic, stories of environmental collapse, and growing social divides, does it make any sense to say we just aren’t adding people quickly enough?

    A recent survey by Having Kids suggests that people are ready, and it might be time, to push back against celebrities modeling poor family planning.

    A line graph shows world population (in billions) from 1800 to 2100, steeply rising after 2000 with three future growth scenarios: high, medium, and low. Data is from the UN, with estimates for 1800-2015.
    By Bdm25 – Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0

    The Solution

    The push for larger families, from taxes to celebrities, relies on an underlying and outdated family planning model, developed decades ago, that is all about what parents want. Under that model, parents should decide to have kids based on whatever makes the parents happy in the short-term, rather than planning their families around what kids need in the long-term. And as such, parents are left easy targets for politicians and businesses that profit from urging them to have more kids. The parent-first model does more than just destroy our and our kids’ environment – it is widening the gap between rich and poor, degrading our democracies, and bringing kids into abusive and neglectful homes.

    Having Kids instead promotes a child-first Fair Start family planning model is that designed around what all kids need in the long-term. The model urges parents to wait to have their first child, urges them to work with the community to get the resources they and their child need for a fair start in life, and promotes smaller and more equitable families.

    Parents are beginning to adopt the Fair Start model, and pushing back against the trend of celebrities modeling larger families. You can too, and speak out for a better future for all.

    Learn more at HavingKids.org. Your future depends on better family planning for all. Protect yourself and the ones you love.

     

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  • Population Crisis in India: Time for Child-First Family Planning?

    Population Crisis in India: Time for Child-First Family Planning?

    As India’s population continues to explode and eventually surpass China’s, calls for population control measures are getting louder. But the calls are often framed as attacks between religious groups, blaming each other for the growth, as India’s historic family planning system continues to struggle and impede basic forms of development, human rights, and environmental protection.

    Is there a way out?

    Having Kids recently called out Trump and the United States for violating international law by pushing pronatalist policies, in contravention of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights “right to found a family” provision, which requires a collective action norm to establish family planning systems that are child-focused, with parents and communities making decisions and structuring resources to bring children into the world only above certain thresholds of wellbeing, like those required by the Children’s Rights Convention.

    Rather than remain mired in religious blame games that exemplify parent-centered thinking, as the population crisis only deepens, India should move towards a child-first family planning system. The solution is about loving the children we will have enough to give them what they need, right fro the start, and cooperating in a way that allows that.

    Having Kids stands prepared to fund a study implementing child-first and human rights-based family planning in India, and will be reaching out to India’s leaders this year to reinforce that offer.

    Want a better world? Let’s move from a family planning system focused on what parents want, to one focused on what kids need – right from the start.

    That’s love – in action.

  • The Solution: Fair Start Orders

    The Solution: Fair Start Orders

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    Updated March 25, 2018

    Taking Child Abuse Seriously Through Better Family Planning

    Two parents left their nine-month-old twin daughters, who each weighed about eight pounds when investigators found them, to starve to death in playpens filled with maggots. The couple told authorities they felt overwhelmed taking care of the children while working long hours.

    A parent and others abused a five-year-old boy over the course of several months, beating the boy so severely that he suffered two strokes and had multiple broken bones. He had been locked in a room, bound with duct tape over his eyes, and struck with belts and a hammer.

    Parents tortured and killed their three-year-old, who died from blunt force trauma to the stomach. There was evidence they had previously used torture as punishment, as investigators found whip marks, cigarette burns, and fingernail gouges.

    These are just a few of the endless stories of children, tortured and killed by their own parents in the past year alone.

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    National statistics, despite underreporting, estimate that 1,670 to 1740 children die from parental or caregiver abuse and neglect in the U.S. annually. And many of the perpetrators continue to have and abuse additional children.

    We can prevent these horrors by focusing on the root of the problem: a one-sided, inequitable family planning model that prioritizes a parent’s desire for as many children as he or she pleases, and at any time and place in the parent’s life, over a child’s most basic needs. This model of family planning isolates parents in their decision-making, prevents cooperation that could help close the gap between rich and poor, ignores the massive impacts family planning has on our natural and social environment, and has prevented progressive reforms over the past several decades.

    Recognizing that studies continue to link child abuse to poor family planning, as well as the fact that our after-the-fact public child welfare systems are a failure, Having Kids proposes a new family planning model that balances the interests of parents, future children, and the community in accordance with fundamental human rights and constitutional principles.

    In the process of family planning, future children as well as other species stand out – more than parents – as the most vulnerable entities. We need a family planning model that protects them.

    Such a foundational change in the way we plan families will require a multipronged approached aimed at all levels of government through a diverse coalition of nonprofits and community members who understand and appreciate that family planning is the most effective means of maximizing child welfare, promoting equality, strengthening democracy, halting climate change, and saving endangered species, including our closest biological kin.

    However, it is in the context of serious child abuse and neglect cases that the horrific consequences of the current family planning model become most stark and widely objectionable. And as such, it is in this context that widespread norm change is most likely. Any serious attempt at modifying the underlying norms that continue to spur unsustainable population growth must include proactive child welfare interventions, with measurable changes in our legal regime that actually further children’s interest. Changes here can act as a litmus test to show that we take reform seriously.

    Having Kids has designed such an intervention, called a Fair Start court order. The order is described in detail below, and each would ideally – but not necessarily – be authorized by a complimentary model state statute. Having Kids is also in the process of developing these statutes.

    Fair Star orders are the beginning of changing family planning models, from an old model focused on what parents want in the short term to a new model focused on what children need in the long term. For Having Kids, this is where child-first family planning reform, and fundamental norm change, begins.

    Fair Start orders are not punitive. They are the equivalent of a restraining order meant to protect future children, and allow for the rehabilitation, rather than the setting up for failure, of troubled parents.

    The Fair Start model order is designed to be used in egregious cases of abuse and neglect, and consistent with progressive reforms of criminal justice, should be applied while accounting for historic structural inequities of race, class, gender, and national origin. They should be applied with the recognition that all children deserve a fair start in life, with equitable opportunities in life relative to other children in their generation, and with the recognition that ensuring that start in life would address the disparities of class which may be the most oppressive aspect of our current family planning system. Most importantly, the order discourages the use of coercion of any kind, but instead relies on its expressive legal force and any appropriate non-coercive and collateral interventions, like the appointment of guardians ad litem for future children.


    The Obvious Problem: A Pipeline from Poor Family Planning, to Abusive Homes, to Horrific State Systems

    Rather than focus on interventions before parents have children, the state’s go-to solution in the gruesome stories described above has been to wait until a child has been repeatedly abused before shuffling that child (if he or she is still alive) into (often failing) state child welfare systems. And the state systems themselves are not always an improvement, with many of them being “grossly underfunded, under-resourced and understaffed.”

    The recent opioid crisis in the U.S. has only accelerated the problem. State child protection systems around the country are in crisis, with multiple state systems failing and clear linkages to increased child abuse. Foster care cases involving drug-using parents have hit the highest point in more than three decades of record-keeping, accounting for 92,000 children entering the system in 2016, according to data by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

    And while increased funding to overhaul the child welfare system would help to alleviate some of the strain on welfare agencies that alone would be manifestly insufficient, since it would still require child abuse as a precondition for intervention.

    The current approach is perhaps the worst example of a lose-lose system one could imagine, with parents, children, and the community all being made simultaneously worse off in the process. And this is happening in the context what is perhaps the most important collective interest of all – the creation of future citizens, and through them, the constitution of the future state itself. This must change.


    The Most Effective Solution: Child-first family planning

    The current model of family planning ignores the thoughtful, carefully constructed, and limited right to found a family ensured by the Universal Declaration of Human Rights and instead ensures a would-be parent the unfettered right to have as many children as he or she wishes. The model allows us to exploit future children by eliminating any fair and equitable minimum standard or threshold for their entry into the world, which in turn has allowed states to encourage and harness the resulting explosive population growth (to the detriment and mass-extinction of the nonhuman world) that comes with treating future children as consumers, taxpayers, and cheap future labor. It is easy to externalize the costs on the voiceless, rather than do the hard work of cooperative and equitable family planning.

    What appears to be a beneficent expansion of freedom for parents is a contraction of welfare and freedom for future children, as well as the community they impact and will eventually comprise. By excluding minimum thresholds for future children, it also sets the parents themselves up for failure, as in the many cases of child abuse and recidivist child abuse discussed herein. The current model is also based upon a faulty assumption: That all would-be parents at all times have an equal and compelling interest in having additional children. In fact, parents in the cases described herein have no objective and countervailing interest in having additional children, and instead an objective interest in delaying parenthood as part of their rehabilitation.

    This model, which treats would-be parents and families as isolated unites with no impact on or obligation to each other, is not really a form of family planning at all because it does not include any substantive guides around which plans can be made, and no mechanism around which families and communities can work to actually make such plans. Worse yet, this model limits collective action to improve outcomes, as policymakers incorrectly perceive an impenetrable realm of personal privacy around family planning decisions that prohibit cooperative action.[1]

    In contrast to the current model, child-first family planning would adopt a holistic approach that addresses the rights of parents, prospective children, and their communities, and as such fully integrates the objectives of human rights. In a world where having children is not merely the default option, but accurately recognized as the most important decision of our lives, families may then work together with the support of policymakers to plan a fair start for every child through smaller, sustainable, and truly democratic communities.

    Key steps toward implementing this child-first model include, for example, working to make long-term reversible contraception free and available to teens and those in need, improving local climate change policies by including child-centered family planning measures, and laying the groundwork to urge the United States, European Union, and United Nations to comply with the best construction of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and its most fundamental promise of “right to found a family.”


    One Vital Tool: Fair Start Orders That Prevent, Rather Than React To, Child Abuse and Neglect

    In a landmark case, one state supreme court approved as constitutional a court order preventing a recidivist defendant from having more children until he was able to care for them.

    Fair Start judicial orders like these, which prevent abusers and neglecters from having more kids, are a vital part of the process for changing the way we plan families. Such orders are consistent with human rights, constitutionally sound, and morally obligated.

    New York’s highest court has noted that “parental ‘rights’ are not so much ‘rights’, but responsibilities….” a principle that a subsequent court relied upon in concluding that “a parent has the responsibility to rear his or her children, but not an unlimited right to bear children irresponsibly.” In re V.R., 6 Misc. 3d 1003(A) (Fam. Ct. 2004) (quoting Bennett v. Jeffreys, 40 N.Y.2d 543 (1976)). Moreover, in California, Fair Start orders were envisioned and virtually called for in the case of People v. Zaring, 8 Cal. App. 4th 362, 374, 10 Cal. Rptr. 2d 263, 271 (1992)

    In the international human rights context as well, the “right to found a family” is necessarily limited by competing rights and correlative duties. See, e.g., Universal Declaration of Human Rights, arts. 29, 30 (recognizing that rights must necessarily be limited by others’ rights and by the general welfare); Article 5, International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights) (“Covenant”) (“Nothing in the present Covenant may be interpreted as implying for any State, group or person any right to engage in any activity or perform any act aimed at the destruction of any of the rights and freedoms recognized herein or at their limitation to a greater extent than is provided for in the present Covenant.”); see also Article 24(1) of the Covenant (establishing a child’s right “to such measures of protection as are required by his status as a minor on the part of his family, society and the State.”[2] [3]

    And yet, notwithstanding the strong domestic and international law bases for Fair Start orders, the orders are not commonly used or understood, largely because we live under the paradigm of the current family planning model, in which the decision to have kids is focused on what parents want in the short term rather than what each child needs in the long term.

    One way to change this is by developing a model order and advocating for its implementation via legislative enactment,[4] regulation, municipal law, etc., and/or for the order to be applied as new cases arise, with certain guiding principles:

    • These orders should be used in egregious cases of abuse and neglect only.
    • These orders should not include coercion of any kind, but instead rely on their expressive force and any appropriate non-coercive and collateral interventions, like the appointment of guardians ad litem for future children.
    • Use of these orders should account for the historic structural inequities of race, class, gender, national origin, etc. They should be applied with the recognition that all children deserve a fair start in life, with equitable opportunities in life relative to other children in their generation, and with the recognition that ensuring that start in life would address the disparities of class which may be the most oppressive aspect of our current family planning system.
    • These orders should account for the fact that the right to have children is morally and legally satiable and diminishes with each child defendants have. That satiability is a moral fact, and when recognized in law and practice allows for cooperative family planning that simultaneously promotes child welfare, equity, participatory democracy, and protection and restoration of the natural environment.
    • Advocacy for these orders should be accompanied by calls – including by courts – for specific legislation, funding, and resource reallocations that address the underlying problem in family planning, and the need for new modeling.

    Below is one such order, which courts are free to adopt and modify with the requisite level of detail and rationale as new cases of abuse and neglect arise.

    Plaintiff,

    v.

    Defendant.

    Case No. _________________

    Judge ________________

    JUDGMENT ENTRY

    IN THE COURT OF _______________________

    ADDITIONAL CONDITION[S] OF [COMMUNITY CONTROL/PROBATION]

    Adults possess a presumptive right to conceive children. This right diminishes when one has borne one or more children and severely abused or neglected them. The right may be suspended temporarily to fulfill the state’s compelling interest in protecting future children, and to protect defendant’s interest in successful rehabilitation. Defendant’s criminal conviction for child maltreatment is clear evidence of unfitness to parent at this time. To release Defendant into the community now would risk creating a situation in which another child is in danger of similar maltreatment at Defendant’s hands. That risk is sufficient reason for the state to refuse Defendant’s request for [community control/probation]. Thus, this court operates within its proper discretion by granting Defendant’s request only conditionally, contingent upon Defendant’s acting to avoid that risk, as it might do with any other risk posed by a convicted criminal.

    As an additional condition of [community control/probation] this court hereby orders Defendant to avoid [impregnating a woman/becoming pregnant] during the duration of the [community control/probation] period.

    Violation of this order will result in [extension of the [community control/probation] period, an order requiring community service, educational and training requirements, additional actions by this court to ensure the Defendant’s rehabilitation, etc.]

    This order is reasonably related to Defendant’s offense, risk of future re-offense, and necessary rehabilitative efforts, which will require devoting substantial time to counseling and other services targeting Defendant’s demonstrated propensity for maltreating children.

    This order serves the State’s compelling interests in preventing harm to future children. Further, this order in no way requires or condones abortion in the event of a pregnancy during the course of the order’s applicability.

    This condition is effective upon service of a copy of this order upon Defendant.

    IT IS SO ORDERED.

    Dated:                                                                      _____________________________

    These orders may be modified for parole as well. Having Kids can assist state agencies and courts in researching, developing, and using these orders. Furthermore, we can advocate for the associated legislation, regulation, municipal law and funding necessary to make them prevalent and accepted.

    Fair Start orders are a win-win, promoting all of the relevant interests at stake.

    For more information please read this comprehensive report, publication forthcoming.

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    [1] The existing flawed model is further entrenched by pronatalist policies whereby wealthy and middle class families in the U.S. are incentivized to have more children via the earned income tax credit and dependency exemptions, whereas as those poor families who need the financial assistance receive neither benefit.

    [2] Unlike other rights contained in the Covenant, the right to found a family can be derogated, see art. 4, and lacks the stipulation common to other rights that it not be unlawfully restricted. See e.g., art. 22 ¶¶ 1-2 (stipulating, in the context of “the right to freedom of association with others,” that “[n]o restrictions may be placed on the exercise of this right other than those which are prescribed by law”)..

    [3] While some nonbinding sources of international law do implicate a broader procreative right, even these nonbinding sources qualify a parent’s right to have as many children as she wishes by specifying the manner in which that right should be exercised. See United Nations: Report of the International Conference on Population and Development, UN Doc No A/CONF.171/13, Cairo, Egypt, 5–13 September 1994 (18 Oct 1994) (“In the exercise of this right, they should take into account the needs of their living and future children and their responsibilities toward the community.”); see also Proclamation of Teheran, Final Act of the International Conference on Human Rights, Teheran, 22 April to 13 May 1968, U.N. Doc. A/CONF. 32/41 at 3 (1968)(“ Parents have a basic human right to determine freely and responsibly the number and spacing of  their children…”) (emphasis added).

    [4] In California, for example, Fair Start orders could be authorized with a simple amendment to Cal. Welf. & Inst. Code § 362(d).

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  • The Problem (WARNING: Disturbing Content)

    The Problem (WARNING: Disturbing Content)

    A father of four, who had previously abused two young children, is finally imprisoned after he fractured his four-year-old son’s ribs, deliberately burned him, and left him permanently scarred from whippings.

    A couple is sentenced to life in prison after leaving their nine-month-old twin daughters, who each weighed about eight pounds when investigators found them, to starve to death in playpens filled with maggots. The couple told authorities they felt overwhelmed taking care of the children with limited help while working long hours.

    A parent and others are sentenced for abusing a five-year-old boy over the course of several months. They beat the boy so severely that he suffered two strokes and had multiple broken bones. He had been locked in a room, bound with duct tape over his eyes, beaten with belts and a hammer, and had been kicked in the genitals until he bled.

    Parents are sentenced for torturing and killing their three-year-old, who died from blunt force trauma to the stomach. There was evidence they had previously used torture as punishment, as investigators found whip marks, cigarette burns, and fingernail gouges.

    A mother is convicted of locking her special needs son in a bathroom for a year. He was found lying on a blanket, unable to use his legs because he was too weak.

    A father is convicted of beating his child with two-by-four wooden boards, pipes, and dog leashes; on one occasion the boy spent eleven days in the hospital.

    A mother is convicted of beating her five-year-old to death; the girl died from internal bleeding.

    The list could go on for a very long time…

    These are just a few of the endless stories of children, tortured and often killed by their own parents, in just the past year.

    National statistics
    , despite underreporting, show an estimate of  1,670 to 1740 children dying from abuse and neglect in the U.S. each year.

    What if we could prevent these things from happening?

    We can prevent these horrors by changing the way we plan families. Moving from a subjective and parent-first model to an objective and child-first family planning model is the necessary first step. Making that change involves 1) Understanding that our after-the-fact public child welfare systems are a failure; 2) Identifying the underlying issues that drive the problem; 3) Promoting judicial Fair Start court orders that move our society to take family planning seriously. In short, we, as a society, need to prove we are intent on actively preventing the torture and killing of children, rather than simply waiting around to react to it.

    The Obvious Problem: A Pipeline from Poor Family Planning, to Abusive Homes, to Horrific State Systems

    Studies link child abuse to poor family planning. That seems like an obvious connection. But rather than focus on interventions before parents have children, the go-to solution to all of the horror stories described above has been for the state to wait until a child has been repeatedly abused, put them into the public child welfare system, and prevent the abusive parents from having custody of any more children.

    That solution, by itself, is obviously insufficient. Obviously, the children have already been abused, but also, state systems are a spiraling down failure as more and more children get shuffled into them.

    Here are just a few examples:  

    In Indiana judges have taken to the press, saying the state child protection system is drowning after the state director resigned saying that current state policies “all but ensure children will die.”

    In Kentucky an oversight panel that reviews child abuse deaths and serious injuries is urging the state put more money into child protection services, saying its social service agency remains “grossly underfunded, under-resourced and understaffed.” The panel reviewed 59 cases of child deaths and 91 cases in which children nearly died from suspected abuse or neglect during 2016 alone.

    An in-depth investigation in Arizona suggests the state and the foster-care system is itself a hotbed of abuse and neglect.

    In North Carolina an investigation found that more than 120 children have died in the state within a year of their parents or caregivers being referred to a state agency; more than 30 of the children were killed by being beaten to death, shot, drowned, smothered, or poisoned by drugs. In many states, the abuse is compounded by homeschooling, which is used as means of hiding children from authorities.

    The recent opioid crisis in the U.S. has only accelerated the problem. Foster care cases involving drug-using parents have hit the highest point in more than three decades of record-keeping, accounting for 92,000 children entering the system in 2016, according to data by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

    The Underlying problem: A Debate About the Right to Have Children and Family Planning Models

    In a landmark case, one state supreme court, faced with this unwinnable scenario, found a way out.

    They approved as constitutional a court order preventing a recidivist defendant from having children until he was able to show that he was able to care for them. Sadly, not all of the justices on the court agreed. One said this: “Men and women in America are free to have children, as many as they desire. They may do so without the means to support the children and may later suffer legal consequences as a result of the inability to provide support.”

    Is that right? Is it really the case that parents have no responsibility to be ready before they have kids? It doesn’t matter how many kids parents have, the impacts on the children and the community are irrelevant, and taxpayers should just continue to fund the cycle of abuse and failure described above?

    Is that really what we believe?

    In the next post, we will discuss the solution.

  • Having Kids Is Offering House Speaker Paul Ryan 25K in Exchange for a Vasectomy

    Having Kids Is Offering House Speaker Paul Ryan 25K in Exchange for a Vasectomy

    Paul Ryan is pushing women to have more kids, saying that “he did his part” by having three kids. Ryan wants women to produce more workers for the economy, which is part a larger Republican push that includes an increase in child tax credits they tout as a way to nudge people to create bigger families.

    It’s a move some are calling an outtake from “The Handmaid’s Tale.” Ryan’s version of good family planning means pumping out lots of kids and hoping for the best.

    What’s wrong with that? 

    Given that having smaller families is the most effective way for the average person to mitigate climate change, and that the Pentagon recognizes climate change as a national security threat, Ryan’s push amounts to threatening national security. Shouldn’t we be having fewer children and investing more in each child to build a resilient and highly developed future populace that can thrive, despite climate change?

    Ryan’s push also ignores an obvious fact: Even with lower birthrates U.S. population is still projected to climb drastically, adding another 100 million people in the next fifty years. What about the quality of your daily life – from climate change, to the cost of housing, to hours spent in traffic, to the level of parenting that went into the people around you, etc. – suggests we just don’t have enough people? Does that really feel like the problem?

    Ryan’s push would also exacerbate what David Brooks called pediacracy, or the locking in of economic inequality from birth, something he blames for “ruining America.” That, plus Ryan’s tax reform policies which are themselves expected to exacerbate inequality, amount to chipping away at the social foundations of the country. At what point does the gap get big enough that the foundation gives? At what point should it give? Why push more children through a system that increasingly fails to develop them, and increasingly hurts moms and kids? If we are desperately trying to fix a particular system, is pushing more people through it a good idea?

    Our Offer to Ryan

    This is the offer we sent Ryan today, who despite his working-class rhetoric, comes from the privileged position of a wealthy family. It addresses all of the problems above, and would allow Ryan to lead in shifting the country to better family planning.

    Having Kids, Inc. will pay you, Paul Ryan, $25,000 on the conditions that you 1) undergo a successful vasectomy procedure within the next two months, as well as 2) publicly announce that you have donated an amount of your choice to a charity of your choice for the purpose of moving at least one child living in a U.S. household falling beneath the 2017 Federal Poverty Guidelines closer to a fair start in life, i.e. closer to the privileges and opportunities in life that your own children now have.

    An Alternative Proposal

    The best way to address the twin threats of climate change and growing inequality is to directly link our child development and family planning systems, and incentivize smaller families that cooperatively plan for and invest more in each child. It’s call Fair Start family planning. It’s not only sound policy, but it’s mandated as fundamental human right, the best interpretation of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights guarantee of the “right to found a family.”

    What would that mean exactly? Recently, Republicans moved to modify tax-advantaged “529” educational savings accounts to allow fetuses to become beneficiaries. Instead, why not work with states to fully fund those accounts for prospective parents and children, including college tuition, through progressively scaled contributions that also require some cooperative and progressively scaled contribution from parents, before they have kids? Learn more about that here.

    Anne Green, Executive Director of Having Kids, has this to say. “Having kids means thinking about the future, and better family planning policies that will produce sustainable, equitable, and democratic communities. What children need to become parts of the economy is a lot less than what they need to be capable participants in a democratic community, and democracy comes first.”

     

     

     

  • Hitting Kids Is Wrong, and Increasingly Illegal. Can We Take That Logic Further?

    Hitting Kids Is Wrong, and Increasingly Illegal. Can We Take That Logic Further?

    For many of us growing up it was common to see parents smacking their children. But as the science of better child development has gone mainstream, violence towards children is increasingly unacceptable, and illegal. What changed?

    In addition to knowing more about the impacts of violence on kids, and hence on the rest of us with whom those children will interact, there has been a longer-term erosion of the view  – in morals and law – that parents own their children and can treat them in any way they wish. Of course there are those that push back, much the way some pushed back against the liberation of women from violent husbands, or the liberation of animals from “owners” today, but those people are losing.

    What if we extended the logic of bans on violence towards children to include future children, and rather than violence, we used extreme child inequity and the long-term impact it has on children as the problem we wished to target? There are stark examples of inequity among children, like Robert Mugabe’s kids flaunting their obscene wealth as many children around them starved, but even milder disparities closer to home have lasting impacts on children’s chances of escaping poverty in their lives. What if, rather than treating parents as if they owned their future children and could pluck them out of preexistence whenever and wherever they wished, parents has to cooperate and share resources to constantly improve the conditions into which all children were born?

    That is what the Fair Start model seeks to accomplish. Let’s take the logic of protecting children to where it belongs – to protecting kids before they come into this world.